“2020! This is my year!”
“I can’t wait for 2020”
“2020 is going to best the best year ever”
I had so many visions, plans, and goals for 2020.
Getting married, getting in the habit of exercising regularly, buying a house, traveling, etc…
However, even though 2020 did not go as planned, I’ve learned so much about myself, my relationships, and my values in the past year.
What I’ve learned has inspired me to share how I’m treating my resolutions a bit differently this year.
2o2o was a hard year.
It was a hard year for everyone, but I will also say that I was very privileged for many reasons in that my year was objectively easier than it was for many many people.
Luckily, I still have my health, as do all my friends and family. I still work at a company that I love. My relationship with my loving fiancé is still very solid and could probably say we’ve grown even closer during our extended work from home time.
But I still feel like my usual priorities and goals are not setting me up for success. I’ve noticed I was phrasing them as something I wanted, not as something I was going to do. I was setting these lofty goals, and then feeling like a failure when I did not stay on track or complete them.
So, instead of a typical list of affirmations and goals for the New Year, I am going to rephrase them as a list of mindset shifts. I will no longer phrase them as “I want this thing” but “this is what I WILL think or do.” By doing so, the original goals may or may not still happen, but the stress of having to complete them will no longer be at the top of my mind.
- I want to get married and have a big wedding
- Instead, I will celebrate the love I have with my partner in front of all of my friends and family, however that may look
- My fiance and I want to buy a house
- I will have a roof over my head and fill it with love
- My fiance and I will make my space the way I want it, no matter the size
- I want to lose weight
- I will find ways to move my body that make me excited to exercise
- I will fuel my body with delicious foods
- I want to save money
- Instead, I will budget to spend what I want to spend, and remove/lessen the guilt associated with spending
- I want to feel less anxious
- I will find things that make me happy and calm and fit them into my daily life
- This year, I will be open and honest about my anxiety and not hide it or shove my feelings down, for example – writing about it in my blog!
These “goals” are going to be an ongoing project. They will require reminders, and there will be times where I slip up and think of these goals in the “old way.”
But the purpose of this shift in thinking is not going to be having a better life come 2022.
The purpose of these goals and mindset changes is to be happy with who I am now, in this moment.
So here is my challenge for anyone who may read this –
Write down any resolutions you wanted or had already set for 2021, and see how you can rephrase them and shift your mindset.
The Anxious Shopper 😘